In a world that has always been superficial but even more so as of late, it is ultra important to keep grounded in the fact that true beauty doesn’t lie in the eye-blindingly shimmery lip gloss from the 2000s but in our “flaws.” After all, trends pass and you never know what the next trend might be. It could be the very flaws you hate. We’ve seen a growing obsession with fixing or improving everything we can in whatever way possible, whether it’s with lip injections, Botox, rhinoplasty, or arduous glute workouts. We’ve always been told that certain things were bad.
But ask yourself this: Are any of these things truly bad? Are they really hideous? Or have you just been told they’re ugly all this time and now lost sight of your own idea of beauty? Maybe you never cared about something until the idea crept up on you eventually because of the people around you and the media. Regardless, I hope to remind you that flaws are beautiful because flaws are you. No one can be perfect, so let’s celebrate the things that make us different.
Want to truly feel beautiful? Then read on, my gorgeous friend.
7 – Wrinkles
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Bemoaning the inevitability of wrinkles is like bemoaning the passage of life and time itself. Wrinkles are beautiful–simply for the fact that they are signs of life and only add character. No matter the age, I see people with crow’s feet from when their eyes crinkle up into a smile, and I always think to myself, “This person has lived.” Those wrinkles are much-welcome remnants of smiles and laughter. They ask, “Remember when you laughed so hard your eyes were crescent moons?” I see wrinkles on the forehead as signs of deep thought and wisdom from hard experiences. All their ideas and the lessons they’ve learned are etched into the canvas.
Who wants to be smooth all over when they can add even more dimensions? Wrinkles show that they’ve gone through happiness and hardships, that they’ve had the privilege of growing old, that they’re past the self-devouring vanity of youth. Many people love their grandparents, with their beautiful faces made even more expressive by layers of wrinkles, the love shining forth from each fold and line. I don’t want my grandchildren to see me with an eerily impassive demeanor grimacing down at them like a mannequin. I want my whole face to move, to bunch up, to fold in on itself to show how happily I smile down at them.
This isn’t to criticize you for using preventive measures like moisturizing cream and all that. Sure, go for it. I make sure to moisturize and use face masks for elasticity, but don’t stress out so much about them, you know? In the end, you gotta embrace your wrinkles, the badges that life awards you for making it this far.
6 – Post-pregnancy belly
Let me tell you right now–I was a huge baby. I have no idea how my petite mother who is barely over five feet tall was able to carry me because I ended up being nine pounds. Apparently the average weight for a baby is seven pounds (I always thought it was six but, well, this is ‘murica), but I was nine pounds, guys. I grew up seeing my mother’s pregnancy belly and sort of being fascinated by it. I thought it was interesting more than anything; I never thought it was unsightly. And now, I find it more beautiful than ever because I know what it is: a post-pregnancy belly. It’s the result of her carrying my sister and me for months to finally give birth to us.
I never thought about it much until I saw one of my favorite YouTuber bubzvlogz talking about this a couple times since she is now the mother of two. She admitted she had been self-conscious about it but now she was more accepting than ever because she has a beautiful son and daughter. Her body has done amazing things. And then I recalled how people would fawn over celebrities, especially models, bouncing back from a pregnancy with their tight, taut bodies. I totally get that–it’s pretty amazing to me because it is hard, but usually, this would include bemoaning their own bellies when they should be as proud of them as the celebs are of their bodies bouncing back to “normal.” Both are amazing. There is just no wrong here.
If you really want, work out to minimize the results of childbirth afterwards, use creams for stretch marks ahead of time, use creams for them afterwards, but don’t hate your body for it! It did a miraculous thing, and I find it even more beautiful for it, stretch marks and pudge or no. More than that, others should never make a mother feel bad about her body because of this–that is completely unacceptable in my book.
5 – Monolids
Sigh. Just sigh. I grew up in a town full of Asian-Americans, myself included, and we were all friends for the most part. And I found all my friends pretty and cute because hell yes they were, but also because they were fun and lovable people. It was a bit saddening to keep hearing more and more friends getting procedures for double eyelids after graduating high school because I have always loved their looks. There’s something different and beautiful about monolids, something exotic about it (yes, lots of people hate this word and so here’s my rant about why I personally find it to be no big deal). They had a unique look, a familiar look that I had grown up with, but then they gave it all up to look more like someone else. Why do people want to look more like other people when they can look like themselves?
This is why I love the growth of celebrities in Korea who are proud of their monolids and are getting immensely popular for standing out in a sea of women who, frankly, look the same. Talented stars like Kim Go Eun, Park So Dam, and Esom. Hey, even Kim Yuna (although I’m not sure if she has double eyelids now–they do form on their own a lot of the time, too). They have this charm and charisma.
Yes, I admit, double eyelids are pretty. They give off a doe-eyed innocence, but monolids are so charming, too! Simply in a different way. I think it’s downright gorgeous sometimes. More than anything, I think it’s a characteristic unique to Asians that we should be more proud of. Having said that, I do want to include the disclaimer that I never had monolids so I personally don’t know how people with it “suffer” but I understand what it’s like to have flaws, and this is all about accepting them. As for plastic surgery, in the end, of course it’s your choice so do whatever you want without worrying about others’ opinions, but no matter who you are, I want you to know that I find you beautiful just the way you are.