We have all been there! Life is full of ups and downs, so it’s only a matter of time until you find yourself in a funk. You’re unmotivated, depressed, and lonely. Worst of all, you feel helpless and hopeless, like there’s no way to get out of a funk.
Of course there are different levels of this. Some require more serious help, especially if you are clinically depressed. However, I want to remind you that, if you hit a low and can’t bring yourself to lift your spirits, this is natural and happens to everyone. There isn’t anything wrong with you. The first step is to recognize this.
Once you acknowledge this, you can move onto the tips to help you get out of a funk!
I find that this is particularly a problem with introverts. You may be an introvert like me, but contrary to belief, that does not mean you want to shun people for life. Sometimes, I find that I feel unsatisfied and realize that I haven’t seen any of my friends in way too long. Usually, once I make a plan and meet up with a friend or two (usually something interpersonal like that), I feel so much better.
Being an introvert only means we need time to ourselves more often than not. But once you feel restless and dissatisfied, you may want to check on your energy battery–if it is overcharged, it is time for some stimulation. You are likely longing to have deep conversations with somebody or create new memories.There is nothing like good friends and conversation to get you out of a funk! Click To Tweet
Currently, loneliness is a huge problem for our generation. Just because we are always chatting with our friends on our phones or liking social media posts does not mean that we are actually socializing. If anything, we distance ourselves from others more, thinking it is enough to interact while hiding behind our screens. It is human nature to need face-to-face interaction once in a while.
The key is to socialize in a fulfilling way. Introvert or extrovert, you cannot rely on meaningless socializations that drain your energy and waste your time. For example, going to a huge dinner party with people I do not know or connect with would further drain me (this is different for every single person). There is nothing like good friends and conversation to get you out of a funk!
If your home is a mess, your life is a mess. Sounds harsh, but it’s true. Marie Kondo was definitely onto something (I feel like it’s a legal obligation to mention her in anything to do with organization). Usually if there is chaos around you, you fall harder into a slump, so get your ass up, pull out the vacuum cleaner, and get to putting your life back into order!
Clean out your closet, throw out old samples, vanquish the hair on your carpet, and empty out the dishwasher (I’m Asian so my dishwasher will neither be used or emptied out ever). Once you feel like your physical world is in order, you will start regaining a sense of control in your life. Relish that sense of productivity as you actually see the results from your organizing and cleaning.
In that vein, sometimes you need a fresh surrounding to give you a fresh perspective or just to feel like something is new in your life. If you fall into the daily tedium and grind, I get you. This is the perfect time to rearrange your living quarters. You have to get the energy moving and flowing in your life to get yourself moving.
And put out of “woo-woo” terms–honestly, everyone needs something new once in a while (more on that later). You get bored! So what you can do is try putting your bed somewhere different. Don’t go crazy with the retail therapy, but maybe you can add a little pick-me-up, like a gold mirror in the corner so you can check out your outfits. Better yet, get a plant!
Technology is the devil. I’m just kidding. But seriously, it doesn’t always help your life out. As mentioned previously, it gives you the false illusion of human interaction. It also pulls you into the comparison trap with all the glitz of Instagram, family envy on Facebook, success stories on LinkedIn, and savvy intelligence on Twitter.
Just ignore all of it. Put your phone away. Put your laptop away. Here is a great post on the things I learned when I spent a whole day reading instead of using technology. Get away from the harmful blue light and get back in touch with the present moment. This is a vacation from the toxic side of technology that will help you get out of a funk.
Try something new
Here’s the point that was promised before! If you’re in a funk, life certainly feels tedious to you. I find that being in a funk comes with feeling stuck, like nothing’s changing in life so nothing will ever change. Hopelessness. Fatigue.
Therefore, you have to put yourself out there. Get out of your comfort zone. Try something new to get out of a funk! Life won’t change because you’re moping. You have to take the initiative–and it doesn’t have to be so scary. You can try to pick up a new hobby. You can try to change up your style by dying your hair or cutting up jeans.
Do something new. You are an evolving human being and there is still so much to discover about yourself. Life will change if you do.
Get outta here! Have you been locked up in your room for the last three weekends? If you need to socialize as previously mentioned, get brunch outdoors, go hiking, or pick strawberries with friends. If you really don’t feel like socializing or you’re an extrovert with the opposite problem, go out and enjoy nature by yourself. Take a walk. Watch a movie. Get out of your house.
You will instantly find yourself happier if you face the sun or get a breath of fresh air. Nature is always a healing element that will up your mood and thinking process. That’s why I recommend it for handling setbacks, as well!
You gotta make yourself feel good, meaning this is time for some much-needed self-care. Do not let yourself go. If you already did, it’s time to find yourself again. Time for face masks, manicures, wine, Netflix, podcasts, a bestseller, and what-have-you. Whatever you need.
If you feel good on the outside, you feel good on the inside. If you really feel so lazy that you are wearing tracksuits all day, you’re going to feel crappy. You got that gold mirror now? Start looking cute for it! Dress good, even if you don’t feel like it. You’ll instantly feel better after. And do not fall into the trap that you’re being shallow. You’re in control of this narrative. Once looking good takes control, then I’d worry, but there’s nothing wrong with wanting to look good at your own standards whenever you want!
My favorite thing to do is find inspiration elsewhere, usually in the form of other people I could use as examples and look up to. I like to see people who seem to have their lives together or are making great efforts to have their lives together (honestly, it’s usually the latter, because no one always has their life together). For example, I watch Kalyn (Koze), MuchelleB, and Rachelleea because they have good advice to give, are always working on themselves, and are also realistic about their struggles and negative moods. Of course, you have my podcast to listen to, too (the second season has started)!
The thing here is, again, do not get trapped. You may watch them for hours, but unless you’re acting on their advice or example, you are actually choosing to stay within the rut under the illusion that you are getting out of a funk.
There you have it! These are some quick and easy ways to get out of a funk. We’ve all been there. I get it! But it’s not something you should let hold you back for longer than it should. Get back up on your feet and get moving because you deserve better, always.